Friendship Guide

[godcat]

What is friendship?
Simply put, it's how favorable a cat is towards you. Friendship comes in three types of values: Normal, Dating, and Marriage.
Normal friendship is displayed as Stars, Dating is displayed as Hearts, and Marriage is displayed as Rings.

Which cats have friendship and can be dated/married?
ALL cats, except for kittens, can be dated and married. Moles and other entities cannot be dated nor married.
Some special cats have their friendship level hidden.

What does friendship look like in the files?
In the files, friendship is displayed as a number ranging from 0 - 1000. There is a different friendship value for Normal, Dating, and Marriage.

What are the friendship tiers?
Each tier of friendship can be displayed as a value range. The tier of friendship correlates to the number of Stars/Hearts/Rings that are displayed.

Tier	Friendship Range
0	0 - 199
1	200 - 399
2	400 - 599
3	600 - 799
4	800 - 1000

What does friendship do?
Friendships always begin by just being friends. After reaching a certain point, you'll be able to date, and eventually marry that cat!

Event	Friendship Value	Notes
Friendship Limit	0	Friendship cannot go below this limit.
Breakup	50-	Once this friendship value is reached, talking to the cat you are dating/married to will make them break up with you. Note that, because of the Daily Decay Limit, this cannot happen naturally, only from Disliked/Hated gifts.
Daily Decay Limit	201	Friendship cannot naturally go below this number from Daily Decay (see "Can I lose friendship").
Friendship Start	250	All Normal, Dating, and Marriage friendship values start at this number.
Birthdays	400+	Cats will now wish you a Happy Birthday!
Gifts	400+	Cats can now start giving you gifts! Each of the following increases your chance of getting a gift by 1: Friendship 800+, Dating 400+, Marriage 200+, Marriage 600+ (Up to x4 more likely!)
Buddies	600+	You can now take the cat out with you as a buddy!
Dating/Marriage	800+	At this point you can officially starting dating the cat, or marry them if you're already dating them! To date a cat, give them a Red Rose (Sold by Ember after Day 15). To marry a cat, give them a Shiny Trinket (Sold by Ember after Day 25).
Kittens	900+	If you're married and have reached this point, your spouse will ask you to have kittens the next time you sleep. Based on "How do I raise friendship?", you'll be asked 2 days after you reach 4 rings. Kittens will be born exactly 8 days after confirming you want kittens. Selecting "Maybe" will result in a delay of 10 days before you're re-asked.
Rival Marriages	900+	If you have 900 friendship with both cats in the Rival Marriage, they may approach you for confirmation.
Friendship Limit	1000	Friendship cannot go above this limit.

How do I raise friendship?
How much your friendship increases for each item listed below depends on two things: How many "Social Hearts (purple)" you have, and whether your colonies "Prey Stockpile" perk is active. Displayed below is the base change of friendship, with these two things listed as possible side bonuses, if applicable.

Action	Base Gain	Heart Bonus	Stockpile Bonus	Difficulty Bonus	Maximum	Notes
Talking	+30	+1 / heart		Kitten +5 Easy +3	+38	Check if you've talked with them each day from the social menu!
Giving a Loved Gift	+40	+2 / heart	+3	Kitten +10 Easy +5	+59	You can find a list of each cats' loved gifts HERE.
Giving a Liked Gift	+30	+1 / heart	+3	Kitten +10 Easy +5	+46	You can find a list of each cats' liked gifts HERE.
Completing Task	+30		+3		+33	Tasks are more costly, but it's a nice bonus, plus you get a reward!
Using "Kindly Purr" Skill	+(5-9)		+3		+(8-12)	Provides all cats around you with a friendship bonus. Friendship gain changes slightly based on Kindly Purr's level. Best used in large clumps like festivals or weddings.
Using "Nine Lives" Skill	+5		+3		+9	Can provide a cat near you with a friendship bonus. This can only affect a cat one time per use.

Can I lose friendship?
Losing friendship is much more difficult than gaining friendship, unless you constantly give cats hated items.

Action	Base Loss	Heart Bonus	Stockpile Bonus	Difficulty Bonus	Maximum	Notes
Daily Decay	-10	+1 / heart			-7	Daily Decay automatically happens at the start of each day. Friendship cannot go below the Daily Decay Limit from this.
Giving a Hated Gift	-50	+5 / heart			-35	You can find a list of each cats' hated gifts HERE.
Giving a Disliked Gift	-25	+5 / heart			-10	You can find a list of each cats' hated gifts HERE.

Can event choices affect my friendships?
Yes! Sometimes by a lot. However, friendship isn't changed for every event, just some. Additionally, the amount it changes by varies drastically, which makes it unreasonable to post it all here. You can find out everything you need to know about events in the Events Guide located HERE.

Thank you!
That's all the information I have! If I missed something that you think should be included, please respond and I will update this ASAP.

[pixel]

Great work! Some of the math doesn't seem to quite add up to me - the maximum levels seem to be lower than the actual maximum if I add up the rest of the column.

Do you have data on a neutral gift?

[zielonaofwildwood]

I know the guardian spirits gain friendship more slowly than regular colony cats. Do you know how much friendship they gain or lose for different things?